How To Write A Eulogy
There is nothing easy about preparing what to say for a eulogy. It can be very daunting especially if it is the first time that you have ever had to speak at funeral as well as grieving for your loss.
Below are some different style eulogy tips that can help get you started and on the right track to a beautiful tribute to be remembered.
Eulogy Templates and Guideline
– Start by introducing yourself and your relationship to the person who has passed
(remember some people who are here may not have met you before or know the personal side of the person who has passed)
– nicknames or affectionate names they were known as
– begin with the year they were born, country, to parents of “”” and mention any brothers or sisters
– where the person grew up
– First job or career path
– Details of any war or military service
– introduce any significant partners or marriages and possibly share their feelings at the time
– The birth of any children, in order of age, possibly talk about any family memories
– Any clubs or associations that they were a part of or any sporting achievements
– Any hobbies or personal belongings that meant something to them and why
– Their favourite place they traveled to or any destinations they loved
– openly talk about their good and bad traits eg. good sense of humor but stubborn at times
– Any Grandchildren or Great Grandchildren that became a part of their family legacy
– Did they have a particular motto or saying they lived by?
– what will you miss the most about their presence?
Alternative Eulogies and Tributes
– Write a poem or read one that you have found online
– Write a song and perform it
– “A Letter to Heaven” -write a letter to the person, as if they were the ones reading it. address it to them and sign off as you would in a normal letter – (please note this is highly emotional and there is a risk you may not be able to read it. maybe ask a friend or the clergy to read it on your behalf)
– 5 memories about the person and what you will miss the most now they are gone
– “The good, the bad & the ugly” – mention a range of stories that display all kinds of life stories (try and keep the stories light and funny – this is always the best option)
– “A-Z” – list the alphabet and for every letter a word short and sweet to go with it (good for children and can be fun and easy to follow as a listener but remember keep it short and sweet
A – always on time, everywhere you went and immaculately dressed
B- Barbecues at your house were always the best times as kids
C – Cookie Jar – yours was always full of the good ones
D – Driving lessons – like the time you taught me to drive a manual car
E – Everything you cooked was AMAZING
F – How Fired up you would get when your footy team was winning (or Losing!)
Handy Tips for delivering your Eulogy or Tribute
– if you have time, type it out and print it. much easier to read aloud
– remember your reading glasses! it will be very difficult without them
– practice reading out loud to your spouse or family – don’t practice reading in your head make sure you practice reading out loud – there is a big difference in retaining the information and it will help with the delivery of your eulogy
– If you are nervous to read bring some support to stand up with you, safety in numbers, if you are reading on behalf of the grandchildren why not bring all the grandchildren up with you? It adds a nice touch and boosts your confidence to speak
– Did you know the celebrant can read on your behalf? why not type something up and give it to them to read for you if you think you wont be able to read it on the day. This is quite normal in a funeral service
– take some tissues with you in your pocket when you get up to speak
– start off when writing your eulogy with very light, funny, happy memories and finish with the more emotional stuff. This way, its easier to read, after you first start to speak your confidence will be higher so by the time you get to the end you can get through the tougher parts more confidently
– just take your time and relax. Don’t think about the people in the room, think about the person you are writing this about, what would they want you to do? What would they want you to say? The chances are, they would be super proud of you no matter what happens.
Best of Luck!